Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most

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问题     Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don’t love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love. There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn’t work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.
    Most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet. But the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. It’s part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification.  We think it is love when it’s simply distraction and infatuation. One consequence is that when we hit real love we become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal.
    Limerance is the psychological state of deep infatuation. It feels good but rarely lasts. Limerance is that first stage of mad attraction whereby all the hormones are flowing and things feel so right. Limerance lasts, on average, six months. It can progress to love. Love mostly starts out as limerance, but limerance doesn’t always evolve into love.
    Love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. Erich Fromm called it "an act of will. " If you don’t learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough, but because you will have many failure experiences.
    There are always core differences between two people, no matter how good or close you are, and if the relationship is going right those differences surface. The issue then is to identify the differences and negotiate them so that they don’t distance you or kill the relationship. You do that by understanding where the other person is coming from, who that person is, and by being able to represent yourself. When the differences are known you must be able to negotiate and compromise on them until you find a common ground that works for both.  
Which one of the following statements is true about the relationship between limerance and love?

选项 A、Limerance lasts for a long time while love does not.
B、Limerance is so different that it can never become real love.
C、Limerance is usually the starting point of love.
D、Love is real while limerance is not.

答案C

解析 细节题;符合比较与对比的命题原则,在原文对limerance和love进行比较的时候,题目要求我们寻找对原文中的两者关系进行正确表述的选项。C选项的表述和原文的 “Love mostly starts out as limerance”是一致的,是正确答案。A选项的表述和原文“Limerance...rarely lasts”这一点相矛盾。B选项和原文的“limerance doesn’t alwavs evolve into love”表达的程度有出入。D选项则在原文中没有相应的表达,属无关选项。
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