I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the

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问题    I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the people I consider my friends don’t consider me theirs in return. Of course, I already knew unbalanced friendships existed. But in every case I can think of, it’s me who’s not especially invested, and the other person who doesn’t realise it. I’m not supposed to be the desperate one. Yet if studies such as this are correct, the phenomenon is so widespread that it’s highly unlikely I’m an exception. 【F1】As with the famous finding that almost everyone thinks they’re in the top 60% of safe drivers, we can’t all be the ones with an accurate sense of who really likes us.
   And if we’re stumbling through life with such a distorted understanding of our social circles, where does that leave all the other received wisdom about friendship’s importance? 【F2】It has been found that friends keep us mentally healthy, alive for longer, less vulnerable to depression and more financially successful—but how much of that comes from actually having friends, versus believing that you do?
   Perhaps it shouldn’t be surprising to learn that, when it comes to friendship, we’re in the grip of an ego-boosting mistaken belief. 【F3】People with healthy self-esteem habitually overestimate both their interpersonal skills and their control over events; some psychologists argue that mildly depressed people have a more accurate grasp of their abilities than the non-depressed. To thrive in the world, it’s often more useful to feel good about yourself than it is to see things as they are.
   Oh, and one more reason not to go mad about the thought that your "friends" might secretly not like you: this particular study, as with so many in social psychology, focused on university students. It’s well-known that our social circles shrink as we mature. 【F4】But isn’t it possible that this shrinkage is better thought of as a kind of separating, as we zero in on those friendships that are actually reciprocated? There are certainly reasons to worry about a loneliness crisis among the elderly, but having only a few friends may not be good evidence for it 【F5】If I make it to my final years with only a handful of friendships, because life has filtered them down to the ones that really count, I’m not sure I’d call that a sad state of affairs. I’d call it an efficient use of my remaining time.
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答案一个著名的研究结果表明:几乎所有人都认为自己的驾驶技术比过半的人值得信任,类似地,不可能每个人都能准确说出谁喜欢我们。

解析 ①本句是包含一个同位语从句和两个宾语从句的主从复合句。②as with表示“正如……一样”,引导类似情况。③第一个that引导同位语从句修饰finding,说明这个研究结果的具体内容,即:Almost everyone thinks they’re in the top 50% of safe drivers,大意为“几乎所有人都认为自己的驾驶技术比过半的人值得信赖”,这种普遍的自我认识偏差也体现在主句所描述的情况中:we can’t all be the ones with an accurate sense of who really likes us,即“我们也不能准确说出谁喜欢我们”。
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