Last week, for the first time in many years, I had a big, shouty, stand-up row with a colleague at work. It started off quite sm

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问题     Last week, for the first time in many years, I had a big, shouty, stand-up row with a colleague at work. It started off quite small, as these things often do. But then he accused me of being sloppy. I accused him of trying to cover something up. The two of us stood in the middle of a large, open-plan office.
    The conventional view is that rage at work is bad, as well as being mad and dangerous. A Gallup poll in the US showed that one in five office workers has been so furious with a colleague in the past six months that they would have liked to hit the other person.
    But the true picture is more complicated than that. There is good rage and bad rage. Someone who gets angry all the time is impossible to work with. But for the rest of us, occasional bursts of anger, have much to be said for them.
    My rage attack had two advantages. First, it was a gift to everyone else. Boring office life was briefly interrupted with a little drama. Eyes popped, and suddenly there was something to whisper about at the coffee machine. It was also good for me as it got my blood coursing agreeably through my veins.
    Companies have got themselves into a puzzledom over anger. On one hand they tell us to feel passionate about our work. On the other they expect us to be professional at all times— which means keeping our negative emotions under lock and key. Passionate and professional strike me as odd bedfellows.
    However, if what passion means is minding about work, I’m all for it. The trouble is that minding means sometimes feeling furious when things don’t go according to plan.
    Indeed, for me work is one long rage opportunity—starting with the fact that the machine that dispenses hot water for tea is on the blink. Clearly some management of rage is in order, and here is what the experts usually suggest.
    Their first tip is to breathe. I’ve never been able to see what the big deal about breathing is. It keeps me alive, but that’s as far as it goes.
    Their second is"positive self-talk"—to squash your negative feedings and give the other person the benefit of the doubt. But why should I give my arrogant colleague the benefit of the doubt when he was so clearly in the wrong? The very thought makes me much crosser than I was before.
    The third tip is forgiveness. Again, no dice:I don’t forgive the water machine and I don’t forgive my colleague.
    The reason this advice is so hopeless is that it is trying to eliminate anger. Instead, what we all need advice on is how to do anger better. My outburst last week could have been improved on. The first problem is that I don’t get angry at work often enough, so last week’s row was too shocking to my system. Once every 10 years is too little. Once every 10 minutes is too much. The ideal might be about once every couple of months.
    The next problem was that I didn’t end it properly. Apologies all round are a good way of ending it.
    There are other principles for good anger. It is almost never good to shout at a subordinate. Second, however angry you are don’t let it spill out of control. Throwing the computer keyboard is not advisable as it makes you look an idiot and then your computer doesn’t work, making you crosser still.
Why did the writer get angry with his colleague?

选项 A、He was arguing some issues of the work with him.
B、He was irritated by his colleague’s shout at him.
C、He felt intolerant of him without special reasons.
D、He felt that his colleague concealed something from him.

答案C

解析 细节题。本题应从原文的第一、二段找答案。文章中唯一提到作者与他的同事吵架原因的句子是“It started off quite small,as these things often do.”意为“吵架往往总是从一些鸡毛蒜皮的小事开始”。其言外之意就是,吵架往往并不是由什么值得吵架的原因引起的,这和[C]”并没有什么特殊的原因”的意思是一致的,故[C]为答案。[A]”由于工作原因”在原文中并没有提到;[B]”由于他的同事对他大吵大闹”和[D]”作者觉得他的同事对某些事有所隐瞒”,虽在原文中提到,但都是吵架过程中发生的事情,而并不是吵架的原因。
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