A good marriage means growing as a couple but also growing as individuals. This isn’t easy, marriage has always been difficult.

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问题      A good marriage means growing as a couple but also growing as individuals. This isn’t easy, marriage has always been difficult. Why then are we seeing so many divorces at this time? Yes, our modem social fabric is thin, and yes the permissiveness of society has created unrealistic expectations and thrown the family into disorder. But divorce is so common because people today are unwilling to exercise the self-discipline that marriage requires. They expect easy joy, like the entertainment on TV, the thrill of a good party.
     Marriage takes some kind of sacrifice, not dreadful self-sacrifice of the soul, but some level of compromise. Some of one’ s fantasies, some of one’ s legitimate desires have to be given up for the value of the marriage itself. "While all marital partners feel shackled(受束缚) at times, it is they who really choose to make the marital ties into confining chains or supporting bonds", says Dr. Whitaker. Marriage requires sexual, financial and emotional discipline. A man and a woman cannot follow every impulse, cannot allow himself or herself to stop growing or changing.
A divorce is not an evil act. Sometimes it provides salvation(拯救)for people who have grown hopelessly apart or were frozen in patterns of pain or mutual unhappiness. Divorce can be like the first cut of the surgeon’ s knife, a step toward new health and a good life. On the other hand, if the partners can stay past the breaking up of the romantic myths into the development of real love and intimacy, they have achieved a work as amazing as the greatest cathedrals(教堂)of the world. Marriages that do not fail but improve, that persist despite imperfections, are not only rare these days but offer a wondrous shelter in which the face of our mutual humanity can safely show itself. 
According to the author, an ideal marriage life______.

选项 A、requires considerable sacrifice on both partners
B、requires that the couple be emotionally involved
C、allows for the growth of the husband and wife as a couple and as two individuals
D、is only an illusion in today’s society 

答案C

解析 文章第一句指出,理想的婚姻不仅给夫妻二人的发展而且也应为他们各自的发展提供机会。A不正确,第二段第一句指出,婚姻需要夫妻双方做出某些牺牲(some kind of sacrifice),这里“牺牲”并非指灵魂上的巨大自我牺牲,而是指夫妻双方需要做出某些必要的妥协,如为了婚姻得以圆满继续,夫妻各自的一些不切实际的幻想(fantasies) 和某些看上去似乎合理的愿望应该让居第二位。
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