Are you really in love? How do you know the difference between love and infatuation? This is often difficult to determine, for t

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问题     Are you really in love? How do you know the difference between love and infatuation? This is often difficult to determine, for there are no set rules surrounding the definitions of love or infatuation. Romantic love is very much a part of the American way of life and many expect that some day "it" is going to hit them and they will know they are in love.
    What are some of the differences between love and infatuation?
    (81) Genuine love is more likely to involve a process of "growing" in love rather than "falling" in love. This may sound terribly unromantic to some who are used to hearing talk about "falling in love " or being "head over heels in love. " This "falling" is often infatuation, and the sheer emotion of "falling" in love often blinds a person to the imperfections of the loved one. We tend to think of the loved one as "perfect", "ideal", or some other divine image. Real love sees the total person--both the "perfection" and the imperfection.  Infatuation, then, is a sudden, emotional sense that one has discovered the "perfect" lover. On the other hand, love realizes imperfections and grows with the acceptance of those imperfections.
    (82) Love leads a person to a feeling of security and trust in the loved one. It usually involves a feeling of mutual benefit arising from the new relationship. "We are able to solve our problems together" is the feeling of love, rather than "Please love me because I need you. "
    (83) Infatuation often entails feelings of insecurity whenever the "lovers" are separated ; feelings of doubt, fickleness, uncertainty, and fear of loss often accompany infatuation. "What will I do if I lose him?" and "I wonder if she really means it when she says she loves me?" express the feelings of infatuation. In such a setting a lasting love does not have a chance to develop.
    (84) Infatuation tends to be more manipulative than love because a lasting feeling of relationship probably has not developed, so that the individuals are still concerned mainly about their own needs and satisfactions. Conversely, in love, the feeling of relationship is genuine and sincere so that concern for the other person evolves naturally.
    (85) Physical attraction is an important part of both infatuation and love, but the superficial attraction is less important in love, for the couple experiencing love usually will build their relationship on a broader base than mere physical attraction.

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答案外表的吸引对于痴情和爱来说都是重要的组成部分,但这种肤浅的外表吸引在恋爱过程中并不是十分重要,因为一对恋人在经历恋爱的过程中通常会逐步建立起一种比单纯的爱恋对方外表更宽泛的关系。

解析 (本句的翻译要注意用词准确。如physical attraction译为“外表的吸引”,翻译“in love”时要适当增词,译为“在恋爱的过程中”,另外“the couple”也不要译为“夫妻”,这里谈论的是说相爱的恋人,而不限于夫妻双方。)
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