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  3. When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. This illness erodes emotional and sexual intimacy and makes a relationshi

When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. This illness erodes emotional and sexual intimacy and makes a relationshi

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问题     When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. This illness erodes emotional and sexual intimacy and makes a relationship filled with pessimism and resentment, anger and isolation. Even the sunniest, most capable partner can be pulled into depression’s strong undertow(潜在影响): You may be overwhelmed by extra household chores that your partner is too lethargic(无精打采的)to finish, resentful because your spouse won’t just snap out of it, or feel that you’re somehow to blame for the illness itself. You may feel alone yet unwilling to tell anyone there’s depression in your household, or you may simply wonder when the sparkle and joy, the humor and fun seeped out of your relationship.
    If there’s depression in your marriage, it’s time to act—for your partner and yourself. Waiting increases the chances that your relationship won’t last; depressed couples are nine times more likely to divorce. And trying to fight or make peace with this often misunderstood illness on your own raises risks for both of you. Admit that you cannot cure your partner’s depression. Your spouse needs your love, support and concern. But these important qualities can’t reverse depression any more than they can control blood sugar, ease arthritis pain, or clear out clogged(阻塞的)arteries. Just as you wouldn’t rely on love alone to cure a medical condition—or withdraw love because it didn’t—don’t expect that your feelings or attention will be able to alter your spouse’s disordered brain chemistry. Use your love to get help and to remind your partner of his or her intrinsic worth during this challenging time.
    Remember, you’re not alone. An estimated 19 million Americans are currently going through depression. In the Reader’s Digest Marriage in America Survey, 42 percent of respondents named depression as a major challenge in their relationships. It’s not surprising that most said this insidious illness had a negative effect on them. But there was an unexpected ray of hope; One in four said depression had a positive outcome for their marriages. "Getting diagnosed and treated makes all the difference, " says Emily Scott-Lowe, Ph. D. , an assistant visiting professor of social work at Pepperdine University, who leads workshops across the country about depression and marriage with her husband, Dennis Lowe, Ph. D. , a psychologist and director of Pepperdine’s Center for the Family. "Just 33 percent of people with depression seek and get help. But when you do, your chances for significant improvement are 80 to 90 percent. Almost everyone gets some relief.
    "There’s a bias that says women get depression more often than men, but it may just be that men don’t ask for help or realize what’s wrong, or respond to depression by abusing alcohol or becoming aggressive or violent, " Emily Scott-Lowe says. "And often with men, there’s more agitation than lethargy. A man may seem worked up. He may have frenetic, restless energy that doesn’t fit with the typical picture of someone in bed with shades down and the sheets up over their head. "
    The couple now present workshops about depression’s impact on couples and families based on their own experience. Their advice? See depression as an unwelcome guest—it’s an illness, not a shortcoming. Get help, and support, together.
What should the well spouse do if there’s depression in the marriage?
选项 A、Doing nothing until the depressed spouse recovers.
B、Trying to fight against this illness on his/her own.
C、Paying more attention to the spouse’s depression.
D、Using love to make the partner realize his/her intrinsic worth.
答案D
解析 细节题。根据第二段最后一句“在这段具有挑战的时期里，用你的爱去寻求帮助并提醒你的伴侣认识到自己的内在价值”，所以[D]”用爱来使伴侣认识到自己的内在价值”是正确答案。由本段第二句“等待会增加你们关系无法持续的几率”可知，[A]”什么都不做直到患抑郁症的一方恢复”是错误的做法，排除；由本段第_二句“试着依靠自己的力量与这个通常被误解的疾病抗争或和平共处会增加你们两人的危险”可知，[B]”他或她应该试着依靠自己的力量与这个疾病抗争”也是错误的，排除；又根据本段倒数第二句“不要期望你的情感和关注能够改变你的伴侣不正常的脑化学物质”可知，[C]”给予配偶的抑郁症以更多的关注”也不对，故也排除。
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