首页
外语
计算机
考研
公务员
职业资格
财经
工程
司法
医学
专升本
自考
实用职业技能
登录
外语
The Art of Friendship A)One evening a few years ago I found myself in an anxiety. Nothing was really wrong — my family and I wer
The Art of Friendship A)One evening a few years ago I found myself in an anxiety. Nothing was really wrong — my family and I wer
admin
2013-11-21
36
问题
The Art of Friendship
A)One evening a few years ago I found myself in an anxiety. Nothing was really wrong — my family and I were healthy, my career was busy and successful — I was just feeling vaguely down and in need of a friend who could raise my spirits, someone who would meet me for coffee and let me rant until the clouds lifted. I dialed my best friend, who now lives across the country in California, and got her voicemail. That’s when it started to dawn on me — lonesomeness was at the root of my dreariness. My social life had dwindled to almost nothing, but somehow until that moment I’d been too busy to notice. Now it hit me hard. My old friends, buddies since college or even childhood, knew everything about me; when they left, they had taken my context with them.
B)Research has shown the long-range negative consequences of social isolation on one’s health. But my concerns were more short-term. I needed to feel understood right then in the way that only a girl friend can understand you. I knew it would be wrong to expect my husband to replace my friends: He couldn’t, and even if he could, to whom would I then complain about my husband? So I resolved to acquire new friends — women like me who had kids and enjoyed rolling their eyes at the world a little bit just as I did. Since I’d be making friends with more intention than I’d ever given the process, I realized I could be selective, that I could in effect design my own social life. The downside, of course, was that I felt pretty frightened.
C)After all, it’s a whole lot harder to make friends in midlife than it is when you’re younger — a fact woman I’ve spoken with point out again and again. As Leslie Danzig, 41, a Chicago theater director and mother, sees it, when you’re in your teens and 20s, you’re more or less friends with everyone unless there’s a reason not to be. Your college roommate becomes your best pal at least partly due to proximity. Now there needs to be a reason to be friends. "There are many people I’m comfortable around, but 1 wouldn’t go so far as to call them friends. Comfort isn’t enough to sustain a real friendship," Danzig says.
D)At first, finding new companions felt awkward. At 40 I couldn’t run up to people the way my4-year-old daughters do in the playground and ask, "Will you be my friend?" "Every time you start a new relationship, you’re vulnerable again," agrees Kathleen Hall, D Min, founder and CEO of the Stress Institute, in Atlanta. "You’re asking, ’Would you like to come into my life?’ It makes us self-conscious."
E)Fortunately, my discomfort soon passed. I realized that as a mature friend seeker my vulnerability risk was actually pretty low. If someone didn’t take me up on my offer, so what: I wasn’t in junior high, when I might have been rejected for having the wrong clothes or hair. At my age I have amassed enough self-esteem to realize that I have plenty to offer.
F)We’re all so busy, in fact, that mutual interests — say, in a project, class, or cause that we already make time for — become the perfect catalysts for bringing us in contact with candidates for camaraderie. Michelle Mertes, 35, a teacher and mother of two in Wausau, Wisconsin, says anew friend she made at church came as a pleasant surprise. "In high school I chose friends based on their popularity and how being part of their circle might reflect on me. Now’s it’s our shared values and activities that count." Mertes says her pal, with whom she organized the church’s youth programs, is nothing like her but their drive and organizational skills make them ideal friends.
G)Happily, as awkward as making new friends can be, self-esteem issues do not factor in — or if they do, you can easily put them into perspective. Danzig tells of the mother of a child in her son’s preschool, a tall, beautiful woman who is married to a big-deal rock musician. "I said to my husband, ’she’s too cool for me,’" she jokes. "I get intimidated by people. But once I got to know her, she turned out to be pretty laid-back and friendly." In the end there was no chemistry between them, so they didn’t become good pals. "I realized that we weren’t each other’s type, but it wasn’t about hierarchy." What midlife friendship is about, it seems, is reflecting the person you’ve become(or are still becoming)back at yourself, thus reinforcing the progress you’ve made in your life.
H)Harlene Katzman, 41, a lawyer in New York City, notes that her oldest friends knew her back when she was less sure of herself. As much as she loves them, she believes they sometimes respond to issues in light of who she once was. An old chum has the goods on you. With recently made friends, you can turn over a new leaf.
I)A new friend, chosen right, can also help you point your boat in the direction you want to go. Hanna Dershowitz, 39, an attorney and mother in Los Angeles, found that a new acquaintance from work was exactly what she needed in a friend. In addition to liking and respecting Julia, Dershowitz had a feeling that the fit and athletic younger woman would help her to get in shape.
J)While you’re busy making new friends, remember that you still need to nurture your old ones. We asked Maria Paul, author of The Friendship Crisis: Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends When You’re Not a Kid Anymore, for the best ways to maintain these important relationships. Keep in touch. Your friends should be a priority; schedule regular lunch dates or coffee catch-up sessions, no matter how busy you are. Know her business. Keep track of important events in a friend’s life and show your support. Call or e-mail to let her know you’re thinking of her. Speak your mind. Tell a friend(politely)if something she did really upset you. If you can’t be totally honest, then you need to reexamine the relationship. Accept her flaws. No one is perfect, so work around her quirks — she’s chronically late, or she’s a bit negative -— to cut down on frustration and fights. Boost her ego. Heartfelt compliments make everyone feel great, so tell her how much you love her new sweater or what a great job she did on a work project.
With newly made friends, you can have a chance to take on a new look in your life.
选项
答案
H
解析
细节题。根据句子关键词take on a new look可定位至E)段未句。而跟新交的朋友在一起,你可以翻开新的一页。Take on a new look和take over a new leaf是同类表述。
转载请注明原文地址:https://jikaoti.com/ti/TlCFFFFM
0
大学英语四级
相关试题推荐
Whensheinterviewsteachingcandidates,principalLaurelTellerfavorstheoneswhoshowtheyhaveaheartforchildren,notju
Languageislearnedprimarilythroughcommunicationwithotherpeople.Researchshowsthatthemorecommunicationchildren【S1】__
Ihearmanyparentscomplainingthattheirteenagechildrenarerebelling.Iwishitwereso.Atyourageyououghttobegrowin
A、Theunsmilingfaces.B、Thesun.C、Theresidents.D、Theweather.D题目询问女士好像不喜欢伦敦的什么。关键是听到女士说“太阳从不露笑脸,天总是灰蒙蒙的”,可判断选项D(天气)正确。
A、Theyshouldhelpotherfamiliesthewaytheyhavebeenhelped.B、Theyshouldofferallbabyanimalstotheirpoorneighbors.C
HowtoImproveCampusSafety?1.近日校园安全事故频发,引起社会的广泛关注2.如何提升校园安全3.我的看法
TheAntarcticozone(臭氧)holeischangingweatherpatternsacrosstheSouthernHemisphere(半球),evenaffectingthetropics,scienti
ForaSharpBrain,StimulationTherearemanyphenomenathatarousepeople’sconcern,especiallyseriousdiseases.Americans
Modernmass-productionmethodslowerthecostofmakinggoods,andthusgiveusbettervalues.Atthesametime,Americaningenu
随机试题
在进行室内质量控制时,累积平均数和标准差的计算采用本批次质控物测定值中的A.所有在控数据B.所有质控数据C.所有失控数据D.最后1个月的质控数据E.最初20个数据
属阴离子型表面活性剂的是
头颈部鳞癌再增殖的时间在治疗后多久开始,以后就出现加速再增殖
通脉四逆汤合参附龙骨牡蛎汤适用于心力衰竭的哪种证型
各种类型休克基本病理变化是
物业查验的主要内容包括:物业的物质状况和()。
基金管理公司最核心的业务是()。
交通运输业的产品是()。
某企业在2011年终财务分析中发现人工成本比去年增加了5%,人力资源部对企业的各种人工费用进行了分析。根据以上资料,回答下列问题:分析发现自己企业福利开支占人工总成本比例过高,对此,下列说法不正确的有()。
关于食物是引起龋病的因素,以下观点错误的是()。
最新回复
(
0
)