I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the

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问题    I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the people I consider my friends don’t consider me theirs in return. Of course, I already knew unbalanced friendships existed. But in every case I can think of, it’s me who’s not especially invested, and the other person who doesn’t realise it. I’m not supposed to be the desperate one. Yet if studies such as this are correct, the phenomenon is so widespread that it’s highly unlikely I’m an exception. 【F1】As with the famous finding that almost everyone thinks they’re in the top 60% of safe drivers, we can’t all be the ones with an accurate sense of who really likes us.
   And if we’re stumbling through life with such a distorted understanding of our social circles, where does that leave all the other received wisdom about friendship’s importance? 【F2】It has been found that friends keep us mentally healthy, alive for longer, less vulnerable to depression and more financially successful—but how much of that comes from actually having friends, versus believing that you do?
   Perhaps it shouldn’t be surprising to learn that, when it comes to friendship, we’re in the grip of an ego-boosting mistaken belief. 【F3】People with healthy self-esteem habitually overestimate both their interpersonal skills and their control over events; some psychologists argue that mildly depressed people have a more accurate grasp of their abilities than the non-depressed. To thrive in the world, it’s often more useful to feel good about yourself than it is to see things as they are.
   Oh, and one more reason not to go mad about the thought that your "friends" might secretly not like you: this particular study, as with so many in social psychology, focused on university students. It’s well-known that our social circles shrink as we mature. 【F4】But isn’t it possible that this shrinkage is better thought of as a kind of separating, as we zero in on those friendships that are actually reciprocated? There are certainly reasons to worry about a loneliness crisis among the elderly, but having only a few friends may not be good evidence for it 【F5】If I make it to my final years with only a handful of friendships, because life has filtered them down to the ones that really count, I’m not sure I’d call that a sad state of affairs. I’d call it an efficient use of my remaining time.
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答案自尊心良好的人往往高估自己的社交能力和掌控事情的能力;而心理学家指出,轻微抑郁的人比普通人更能准确掌握自己的能力。

解析 ①本句是由两个分句组成,其中分句2包含一个宾语从句。②分句1是简单的主谓宾结构,with healthy self-esteem作后置定语修饰主语people,意为“自尊心良好的人”。overestimate有两个并列宾语,分别是interpersonal skills和control over events,表示“社交能力”和“掌控事情的能力”。③that引导的宾语从句为分句2的宾语,说明心理学家指出的内容;have a grasp of sth.表示“掌握……”,more…than为比较结构,将mildly depressed people和the non-depressed作比较。
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